Defining Your Own Road to Freedom
Just a few destinations shy of her 100-country goal before turning 40, Davita McKelvey slowed down to talked to EBONY. As a wife, part owner of the travel magazine Griots Republic and all around Black girl magic, McKelvey discusses the beauty of traveling buy canada goose jacket cheap and doing this thing called life on Canada Goose online her own terms. EBONY: Before we get started, I just want to say congratulations on almost completing your goal of traveling to 100 different countries! That’s no small task. What number are you up to?DM: 92.EBONY: Did you start off saying, "I want to visit 100 countries or did the number expand as you traveled?"DM: When I turned 33 I completed my Master’s program, left my corporate job and decided to embark on 33 countries to celebrate. When I returned—almost a year later—I tried to go back buy canada goose jacket to my regular life and canada goose nothing fit anymore. 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Do you understand that kind of happiness and freedom? When I got back home, it felt like trying to fit a circle into a square peg. I had already been [exposed] to so many other experiences and countries and people. I canada goose store simply couldn’t go back to who I was. It just so happened that when I came home we (my husband and I) were in a place where we could move some things around and change our lifestyle to make it happen. And we did.EBONY: I’m sure that was unexpected. But when you planned a solo trip to visit 33 different countries, how did you imagine life to be different when you came home? And why THIS type of trip? Some people are like, "Hey, I’m turning 33. I’m having a brunch. Bottomless mimosas all around." THIS was different.DM: I know this may sound naive, but it’s something that I always wanted to Canada Goose Coats On Sale do and I thought I would get it out of my system. 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But these things make for richer experiences.EBONY: What are the differences in the way you prepared for your first trip vs each trip that followed? Emotionally, and financially etc., how did you prepare and how did it change in time?DM: canada goose deals The first time I did A LOT of prep. I used spread sheets that listed the cost of each flight to the different countries, how much I should expect to pay for food, where I would stay, what I would do, how I would write about Canada Goose Jackets each city, my budget etc. The spreadsheet was so detailed. It was just ridiculous. I had bags full of just everything. Now, I literally just show up at an airport with a canada https://www.canada-gooseoutlets.ca goose coats on sale backpack. I don’t do any of that other stuff.EBONY: What changed?DM: Now it just becomes life. It’s like when you go visit your mom that lives in another state. You don’t pack a bunch of stuff; you sort of just canada goose coats go. It’s such a natural part of life now. I’m so used to canada goose black friday sale being on a plane. I’m not vacationing, I’m just living. And since I’m just living and not actually on vacation, I walk around looking like my ‘I’m at home self." Which is why I get embarrassed when I’m in another country and I see other Black folks. Most of the time I look a mess. canada goose clearance sale The natives don’t really know what my hair is supposed to look like, but my sisters…they KNOW. Sometimes they give me the, “ Girl you know better" look. Sometimes I deserve it. At times I just look absolutely homeless. But again, I’m just living, not really vacationing.EBONY: It’s interesting that you keep stating how much this is just part of your life. To be away on solo trips is just the norm now. When you got married was this always part of the plan?DM: We planned to travel frequently together. He wanted to be a photographer and work for National Geographic. But when you’re married, sometimes things change and people change and your dreams change. For him the idea canada goose replica of freedom started to look like owning his own business. He wanted to be free to build his business the way he wanted. That’s why he started Kindred Films. His dream changed. I’m Canada Goose Parka not gonna lie. We definitely had seasons where it became difficult. When you start to change, just as people within in a marriage, things can get hard. But we are at the point in our marriage where he recognizes the things that I need to do that make me happy and I recognize the things he needs to do that make him happy. For me “newness” makes me happy. I like to experience new things, and I am able to experience this within my marriage via travel. For him he experiences “newness” and freedom by growing his business, getting new clients and taking on a new projects. But we are still a team.EBONY: What is one thing you could share with our readers that you learned while traveling to almost 100 countries?DM: Canada Goose Outlet Never let fear stop you. Figure out what freedom looks like for you. Once you figured it out, go out and create it…on your own terms. Shanita Hubbard is a mom, writer, traveler, speaker and social justice advocate. Her background includes juvenile justice reform, nation-wide consulting and collaborating on multi-million dollar grants. However, she is most proud of her title as the Mom of an amazing black girl. Follow her on Twitter.